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www.privateairny.com Private Air | Spring 2020 44 and other interests thrive. Growing a family's resources translates directly into growing a family's opportunities. Now, not everyone of the same age group will be tasked with the same responsibilities as not all will be tapped to be the future patriarch or matriarch. If there is more than one competent heir apparent, several decisions might be made by consensus. However, if there are heirs who are unprepared to serve the interests of the family, their participation (and possibly their knowledge and access to shared assets) can be limited. Repeated violation of written stewardship policies, i.e., struggling with addiction, failure to work consistently, or other irresponsible actions are often the impetus for limiting a troubled heir's access to the family's capital. However, those in the stewardship role may re-evaluate situations on a case-by-case basis to increase or decrease the participation of the family member in question. If family meetings are a consistent fixture in the life of an heir who is a future steward, responsible behavior may be modeled as well as incented, perhaps in an Incentivized Trust. Depending on a child's age, s/he may be given increased responsibility annually. What begins as a modest allowance may evolve into sitting in on meetings with the family's financial advisor to hear about the overall wealth picture of the family. e burden of responsibility will be on the shoulders of those heirs, groomed over time, whose decision-making skills, knowledge, and responsibility has evolved and grown. e assets of family members requiring care (i.e., full time in-house assistance or an assisted living facility) can be managed at the steward's behest. is will vary from family to family on a case by case basis. e law student, who has dutifully honored the family's stewardship policy from an early age, may be asked to hold the purse strings (or act as a trustee) for a less responsible sibling. In this scenario, the future lawyer assumes both stewardship and responsible ownership of his own trust, and, stewardship of his sibling's. Such a situation is not without its challenges which might include time constraints, a lack of motivation, guilt, or fear about damaging the relationship with the sibling. Such a scenario should not be left as an elephant in the room—successful families do not shy away from tough decisions. When future family leaders understand what is at stake, they are less likely to be blindsided by information. Stewards will face tough decisions, such as assuring the care of family member (i.e., a relative in a healthcare facility) occurs. us the steward's role, if there were to be dissent about different scenarios for care, would be to weigh the options and come to the final decision about how resources will be allocated. Ultimately, whether members of the steward's generation are given the task or not, if all members of the family value the contributions of older family members, the best possible care will be a unanimous vote. A new beach house might have to wait. Decisiveness, active listening, empathy, and respect are just a few of the qualities successful stewards seek to cultivate. Additionally, they have an ability to see the "big picture" of family wellbeing including the various personalities, individual's diverse values, their ideas, and the conflicts that occur when different ideas clash. e ability to look forward and constantly ask, "Where do I want my family to be in 5 years? In 10 years? Where do I envision them a generation from now? Or five generations from today?" ese questions help a family stay the course and adhere to their ideals. Transferring knowledge generally takes more than being a good role model. It requires clear, consistent communication and action regarding expectations, priorities, and goals for financial capital. A family meeting offers a regular forum to discuss what legacy a grantor desires to leave and provides heirs the chance to ask questions, voice concerns, and take on more responsibility within the family. Creating a clear plan for the transfer of responsibility as well as wealth can prevent confusion and pave the way for family unity—particularly if a grantor's plan does not divide assets equally among beneficiaries. Ultimately grantors who have worked hard want to pass lessons learned on to heirs along with their assets—and have them distributed and used as they intended. No discussion or information contained in this article serves as the receipt of, or as a substitute for, personalized investment or legal advice from Abernathy Group II LLC. If you wish to receive a legal opinion or tax advice on the matter(s) in this essay please contact our offices and we will refer you to an appropriate legal practitioner. The Abernathy Group II LLC is neither a law firm nor a certified public accounting firm and no portion of the article content should be construed as legal or accounting advice. Remember to contact Abernathy Group II LLC, in writing, if there are any changes in your personal/ financial situation or investment objectives for the purpose of reviewing/evaluating/revising our previous recommendations and/or services. A copy of the Abernathy Group II LLC's current written disclosure statement discussing our advisory services and fees is available for review upon request. About the authors: Steven Abernathy and Brian Luster counsel affluent families on multi- generational wealth management strategies. This includes: asset protection, wealth management, estate and tax planning, and Heritage Planning. They are regular contributors of articles and commentary to publications including Forbes.com, Barron's, The Wall Street Journal, and The Huffington Post. For more information, contact them at 888-422-2947, bluster@abbygroup.com or sabernathy@abbygroup.com. WEALTH MANAGEMENT

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